V-Day Advice

[Hae-Yu]

Setup - For Valentine's Day, my wife and I are planning to go to the Grand Canyon for a late winter trip. It would be a unique view and so far, all of our travels in the wintertime have been more than beautiful.

However, this will occur 2 weekends following V-Day. She says "no don't worry about it, save the money for the Grand Canyon." She specifically said she doesn't want me to take her out for a nice dinner or anything like that. She's insane about my grilled food, so I will probably grill up a nice dinner. Since this is the first V-Day after our marriage, it seems that I should still do something more than make a nice dinner.

So far my only idea is to head over to the Godiva chocolates store and pick a nice box up but I've done that before.

Ideas?

[Jethro]

how about a night at home. a movie she wants to see, some of her favorite flowers that you picked out and put together (not roses, they're over done), candles, your insane grilled food, wine that goes with the food your cooking (if thats what she likes), etc. I think you get the point, you need to make the evening all about her. Plus its cheap and she can't say you didn't do anything.

[MiddleFinger]

Amendment 1: For Desert; Bubblebath, Champagne, If you can find them...strawberrys and maybe some chocolate fondue.

[Angel]

Yep, sounds good to me. If she doesn't want you to take her out because money has to be saved for the trip which is understandable, make HOME special like MF and Jeth suggested. Your food (which IS very good, sigh) and some nice dinner music. CANDLES candles candles...I mean, light the whole dining room/kitchen wherever you're eating with them if you have enough, OR just 1 or 2 on the table is great, too. Sometimes at the store they have those bags of 100 tea lights for about 5 or 6 bucks, and I like MF's bubble bath idea. Put the tea lights all over the bathroom. They're small, so they only last about an hour, maybe an hour and a half, but that's still good. Dessert, MF's idea's great about that, too, or even just her favorite dessert. Dress up at home, put on something nice and ask her to do so as well. Definitely Jethro's flower idea...but I disagree on the roses part because they're my favorite flower. Buy her ONE red rose. Give it to her at the right time...or make it part of the after dinner "activities." Be romantic, serve her for the night, she'll melt into a puddle. Another thought is to make her a book of 'coupons' she can use. You can make them stuff you'll do for her around the house, or washing the vehicles, or you can make them sexy and romantic. "Good for one massage, foot or back, with lotion," or "Good for one time, any time anywhere," stuff like that.

[MiddleFinger]

One of my most romantic nights ever!

Simple enough: Note on door saying "look down", trail of rose petals leading to bathroom where I've got the bubblebath (sprinkled with different colored rose petals). Several selections of bath fragrances, oils, body wash, etc. And, of course...bottle of champagne, bowl of fresh strawberrys and one with sugar. (didn't have time for fondue). Me...sitting on the side of the tub (fully clothed) ready to offer my services (as a bath boy). And yes...I got lucky that night! :wink:

[HHBizzle]

One of my most romantic nights ever!

Simple enough: Note on door saying "look down", trail of rose petals leading to bathroom where I've got the bubblebath (sprinkled with different colored rose petals). Several selections of bath fragrances, oils, body wash, etc. And, of course...bottle of champagne, bowl of fresh strawberrys and one with sugar. (didn't have time for fondue). Me...sitting on the side of the tub (fully clothed) ready to offer my services (as a bath boy). And yes...I got lucky that night! :wink:


dayum
sounds like the opening to a daniel steele novel!

[HHBizzle]

Be romantic, serve her for the night, she'll melt into a puddle. Another thought is to make her a book of 'coupons' she can use. You can make them stuff you'll do for her around the house, or washing the vehicles, or you can make them sexy and romantic. "Good for one massage, foot or back, with lotion," or "Good for one time, any time anywhere," stuff like that.



IF YOU DO THE COUPONS...make sure you put an expiration date on them!

[Nebula]

So what do the ladies do for the guys on this festive time of year? I am curious... :lol:

seems like its always the guys responsibility to make things special... O_oa

[papa smurf]

i suck with da ladies:( always get rejected

[Angel]

That's because you're 12.

MF, wow, I'm impressed. :) And, yes, you should probably give her an expiration date, like 6 mos, or until next V-day...something.

[Thunder]

One other thing that works really well. Breakfast in bed. Even if it's just a bagel and some OJ. For some reason Angel gets all gooey when I do that. Cooties.... ew.

[INANN]

I did something similar to MF's one night...and that went over very well. The best valentine's day I ever did is probably a bit out of your price range given your trip. It was one of the best $700 I spent.

I sent her on a scavenger hunt. I wrote a poem leaving little clues around the condo of where to find a special gift. The special gift was a local paper, in which I had taken an add out in the local paper telling my wife how much I loved her. The ad was just the beginning as it gave instructions to be at a specific address at 3:00 PM that day. The address was a lingerie shop where I had picked out some new (sexy but comfortable) underwear. I left a note with instructions for her to change at the store and to proceed to a new address. The new address was Nordstroms where I had a dress & shoes I picked out waiting for her. The clerk had another note (telling her to change into her dress & shoes) with instructions to go to another place and pick up a matching handbag I had waiting. There she found another note telling her to go to another address...which turned out to be a jewelry store where I had a diamond pendant waiting for her. There she found another note telling her to meet me at the train station, where we went into Manhatten for dinner at Tavern on the Green & then to Carnegie hall for a concert. Needless to say she was quite happy (And the clerks LOVED helping out on all of this). Feel free to copy & then you can always tell her how gaming helps the romance in your life :)

[Angel]

*melt*

[thegreaterbad]

I did something similar to MF's one night...and that went over very well. The best valentine's day I ever did is probably a bit out of your price range given your trip. It was one of the best $700 I spent.

I sent her on a scavenger hunt. I wrote a poem leaving little clues around the condo of where to find a special gift. The special gift was a local paper, in which I had taken an add out in the local paper telling my wife how much I loved her. The ad was just the beginning as it gave instructions to be at a specific address at 3:00 PM that day. The address was a lingerie shop where I had picked out some new (sexy but comfortable) underwear. I left a note with instructions for her to change at the store and to proceed to a new address. The new address was Nordstroms where I had a dress & shoes I picked out waiting for her. The clerk had another note (telling her to change into her dress & shoes) with instructions to go to another place and pick up a matching handbag I had waiting. There she found another note telling her to go to another address...which turned out to be a jewelry store where I had a diamond pendant waiting for her. There she found another note telling her to meet me at the train station, where we went into Manhatten for dinner at Tavern on the Green & then to Carnegie hall for a concert. Needless to say she was quite happy (And the clerks LOVED helping out on all of this). Feel free to copy & then you can always tell her how gaming helps the romance in your life :)


:idea: :idea: Touche' my friend, I am definitely saving this one for a special girl.


dont worry, I will make sure I send you some of the pics of the after affect to make up for the royalties :eek:

[INANN]

For those in the Manhattan area, Tavern on the Green is a great place for V-Day. Just make your reservations in advance. They have a violinist who can play most songs go around from table to table. They played our wedding song for us.

[Thunder]

http://www.penny-arcade.com/comic

Today's was perfect for your dilemma Ultra.

[Angel]

So are you going to tell us what you finally did??

[Hae-Yu]

nope:eviltongu

We have some other high stress items that kicked in on Monday and Tuesday and neither of us, least of all her, was in any shape for an involved event. When you list all 5 or 6 of the most high stress life events possible, we officially have all of em happening except divorce.

I grilled a nice dinner with wine and romantic lighting.

For a gift, I bought her a TV set that I'll mount on the corner when she's working out on her treadmill.

[MiddleFinger]

Gotta love those unexpected happenings...

I know you all want to know how my V-Day went...

Well, let me tell you first: Four years ago on Valentines day, I proposed to the girl of my dreams. I though that she was the one... I was sooo excited. I couldn't wait to get married. A year and two months later, we got married.

Boy, was I in for a supprise...little did I know, the next four years would turn out to be some of the worst, most difficult times in my life. Although, I cannot deny that there were plenty of pleasant, memorable moments. Expecially, about every other month, when that one day came when all she wanted to do was have sex...boy, I yearned for those days. Any self respecting sex addict that didn't get any except for once every other month would right?

Well, four years later, it's Valentines day again, and at 9:30 A.M. I got rid of the bitch!!! (Well, she actually got rid of me, being the one that filed) The funny thing is, I showed up 15 minutes(late) into the hearing. lol :lol:

[HHBizzle]

this happend yesterday?
like ON valentines day?

[Hae-Yu]

No, nothing bad like that MF!!!

It's just a whole lot of stressful stuff going on, and most of it is falling on her shoulders. I was just saying too much is going on and we're too tired for a big event:) She really appreciated what we did and enjoyed it and it was a sweet, low-key affair.

[L1veUndead]

I worked on Valentines day and fed all of the people that wanted to take there other to the olive garden.

I dont even want to look at a grill for the rest of my life after that......

[Sammie]

mark and i make it a rule not to celebrate v-day. 12 years of boycotting ftw!!

[MiddleFinger]

Bad??? No way, not bad at all. Well, the only thing that sucks about it is my daughter. I think as a couple, it just wasn't going to happen. It was stupid on both our parts from the beginning. Just took it way too fast.

[Angel]

Well, it's sounds like you had a sweet evening anyway, Hae. Sorry for the stress, but at least you could enjoy dinner, and she has TV to watch while working out! Very nice. :smile:

MF...I'm not sure whether to say sorry or congratulations. I remember trying to help you with your marital situation at one point, and I hope everything is going the way YOU want it to. Er, not much consolation, but...

L1ve, if you could just send some Ravioli di Portabello and stuffed mushrooms this way, you'd be my bestest friend for L1FE!!! BFF, man, BFF!

[MiddleFinger]

I know, you all really go out of your way to help me, give me advice, etc. I really appreciate you all, more than I can express in this forum. I take everything everyone has to say to heart...I tried. I wanted the marriage to work, but she never wanted it. I don't think she wanted it in the first place. When we first found out she was pregnant, one of the very next things she said was "you don't have to stick around if you don't want to. I won't make you pay child support but you'll never get to see her."

All I can say is I tried.

[Sckoarn]

I cooked for my sweet heart.

Rack of Lamb, Wild Rice, and Broc. Spent $37 at the store and brought it home and cooked it up. Was very good meal, she loved it. :biggrin:

[Hae-Yu]

Mmmm, that sounds good! I love lamb, but it's too meaty for her taste so I did steaks.